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Writing workshop

21 Apr


The next Matargashti event is a Writing Workshop conducted by T.P. Sabitha.

Details: April 27th from 4:00 pm to 7:00 pm

About the workshop: The workshop will deal with first person narratives. The emphasis will also be on fictionalising these autobiographical first person narratives and writing them in the third person. The language used in the workshop will be English. People interested in attending the workshop are requested to confirm at the earliest, and also to indicate their language preference, if other than English, so that reading material can be circulated via email and arrangements can be made. 

Please note: Qashti is a safe space for lesbian, bisexual and trans people assigned female at birth.

Please send an email to qashtilbt@gmail.com and the details about the workshop and venue will be sent to you privately. You can also check out the event on https://www.facebook.com/events/1419000898360533/?ref_dashboard_filter=upcoming

Picture source: http://www.christabanister.com/for-writers/



Qashti Talks Politics!

26 Mar

Elections are around the corner and everyone is concerned about which political party to vote for, and we are just as confused too. As queer people, as female assigned at birth, as genderqueer and transmasculine people, it’s high time we talk about why it is important to be politically conscious and to concern ourselves with not-explicitly-sexuality-related issues. What are the implications the upcoming election choices have on our lives and the linkages we try to draw between queer and progressive causes? Come join us for chai, debate and discussion with Jaya Sharma, a feminist, queer rights activist, from the NOMOre campaign. (https://www.facebook.com/CampaignNOMOre?fref=ts)
Date: Saturday, 29th March, 2014
Time: 5 pm
Venue : details to be sent out to those who confirm.
Please confirm there or write to qashtilbt@gmail.com if you plan to come. However, remember Qashti is a safe space for LBT people assigned gender female at birth. Apologies for being so strict!

Qashti Ki Matargashti- Play and Say

11 Sep

Join us this Saturday for card games, board games, word games AND intense and exciting conversations: we hope to have a range of activities for all to get a chance to hang out, meet old friends and new people and have a bunch of great discussions!

qashti Please feel free to bring snacks and refreshments (non-alcoholic). You’re welcome to bring friends but please keep in mind that this space is only for lesbian, bisexual and trans* persons assigned FEMALE at birth.

Join us on facebook to know the details or call us at 9711282307 for any clarification/direction.

Upcoming events in Chennai and Delhi

19 Jun

Chennai – June 22nd


East-West Center for Counseling, Nirangal and RIOV are organizing an event as a part of Chennai Pride 2013 called Muzhakkam – a safe community space to discuss, in the first person, issues affecting lesbian and bi women (both cis and trans), intersex people, transmen (FtM) and other queer people assigned female at birth.

Date: June 22nd 2013

Time: Morning

Venue: Contact magdalene@centerforcounselling.org or call 9884100135 to find out the venue and timings

Media are not allowed at this event.

Delhi – June 23rd

rain qashti

rainbow umbrella with raindrops seen from below

Come one, come all!

Come hang out, share stories, and enjoy the rains over hot chai and samosas at yet another Qashti ki Matargashti! Feel free to bring friends, but keep in mind, this space is meant only for lesbian, bisexual women and trans people assigned female at birth. Look forward to seeing you all there

Date: June 23rd 2013

Time: Afternoon: 4 pm to 7 pm

Venue: The venue and directions will be sent in a private message to all those who confirm. Please call us at 9711282307 for more details.

Delhi – June 28th


The American Centre is screening Pariah (2011) as a part of their LGBT Pride Month celebrations. The movie is about a Brooklyn (New York City) teenager who juggles conflicting identities and risks friendship, heartbreak, and family in a desperate search for sexual expression. Adepero Oduye portrays Alike (pronounced “ah-lee-kay”), a 17-year-old African-American woman who lives with her parents (Kim Wayans and Charles Parnell) and younger sister (Sahra Mellesse) in Brooklyn’s Fort Greene neighborhood. A gifted student, Alike is quietly but firmly embracing her identity as a lesbian. With the support of her best friend Laura (Pernell Walker), she is especially eager to find a girlfriend. Wondering how much she can confide in her family, Alike strives to get through adolescence with grace, humour, and tenacity.

Date: June 28th 2013

Time: 6:00 pm

Venue: American Centre, Kasturba Gandhi Marg, New Delhi

Thank you and Matargashti

21 May

Thanks to your support, the fundraising party was a great success! We had a brilliant time laughing, talking, dancing, eating doughnuts and dinner, and washing it all down with a variety of beverages. We also raised Rs 5000 from the night, which will go towards Qashti expenses. We will put up a full report of our expenses and fundraising till date very soon!

kitesNow, after the fun of the fundraising party, the next matargashti is here! So get yourself geared up for more fun, talks, games, laughter this Sunday. Meet friends, make new friends!

This safe space is open for all LBT and genderqueer people who are female assigned at birth. We will send you the details of the venue once you confirm you are coming, either on the Facebook page, or via phone at 9711282307. See you there!


The Qashti Team

फिल्म चर्चा

29 Apr

पिछले  बार के मटरगश्ती शुरू हुयी इस इंतज़ार में की लाइट कब आये और हम फिल्म देख पाये. और वही हुआ . लाइट आई और हम सब अपनी पहली फिल्म देखने के लिए बैठ गये. पॉपकॉर्न से भरे  बर्तन यहाँ से वहा जा रहे थे . पर सब की नजरे परदे पर थी.

Chini Walks हमारी पहली फिल्म थी हु केन स्पीक ऑफ़ मैन, जो एक डाक्यूमेंट्री फिल्म है  यह फिल्म अम्बरीन अल्क़दर की है I फिल्म के तीन किरदार दिल्ली के जामिया नगर से थे I  तीनो ने ही अपने जिंदगी में कई सारे जेंडर से जुड़े नियम तोड़े थे और यह फिल्म उनके रोजमर्रा के इन्ही पहलू पर थी. तीनो के जिंदगी के कई सारे ऐसे पल थे जहाँ  उनको काफी संघर्ष करना पड़ता था, जैसे स्कूल के यूनिफार्म में क्या पहेनना है, दोस्त कौन होंगे और सबसे महत्वपूर्ण संघर्ष था, उनके पेह्चान. फिल्म के दो किरदार ने तो साफ़ कह दिया था की वे खुद को लड़के  की तरह देखते थे. 

इसके  बाद दूसरी फिल्म थी पुच्च्नी फॉर बिगिनर्स” नामक एक अंग्रेजी फिल्म थी और एक लड़की के जिंदगी के बारे में थी  
फिल्म ख़तम होने के बाद कुछ  समय की चर्चा हुई. ख़ास कर पहली फिल्म के बारे मे एक दोस्त का कहना था की उन्हें  अपने स्कूल की  यूनिफार्म पहेने में  दिक्कत आई. एक दोस्त ने कहा की शिक्षा और जेंडर से जुड़े नियमो से इन  लोगो के जिंदगी के साथ जुडाव को देखना बहुत जरुरी है क्योंकि एक इंसान स्कूल में काफी समय बिताता  है, और स्कूल में जब भेद  भाव होता है,तो कई सारे ट्रांसजेंडर बच्चे स्कूल छोड़ देते है. किसी ने कहा की उनके लिए शिक्षा जरुरी थी  इसलिए वो स्कूल नहीं छोड़ना चाहते थे. परन्तु किसी का कहना था की किसी किसी के लिए जेंडर पहचान बहुत जरुरी होती  है. और इसलिए स्कूल में अगर स्कर्ट पहन कर जाना पड़ता था, और उसपर सभी लोग ये कह के छेडते थे की लड़का हैं या लड़की.
हम  जेंडर, जेंडर ट्रांसग्रेस्सन और शिक्षा से जुड़े मुद्दों पर और चर्चा करना चाहते हैं, आपको क्या लगता हैं?

Matargashti – let’s talk!

23 Apr
qashti trainWith the growing incidents of Gender based Violence in the city and in the country, we’ve been thinking a lot about what it means to walk down the street, use public transportation, be it metros, autos, shared tempos, cycle rickshaws, or buses as an LBT person.

  • Do you find that people stare at you?
  • Do you get physcially/verbally harassed?
  • Do you feel like you need to change the way you dress when you go out to avoid getting attention?
  • Are you comfortable travelling alone?
  • Is it difficult for you to use the metro because you dont know which queue to use (male or female)?
  • Do you feel safe travelling at night?
  • Are you relieved that you dont get male sexual attention because of the way you look?
  • Can you be affectionate towards your partner in public?

We all have experiences to share when it comes to moving about in the public sphere…our experiences are all unique because of our class, caste, gender presentation and sexual orientation.

So this Matargashti we will talk about how we feel in public places as LBT persons. Do come and share your anecdotes, ideas, stories and reflections with everyone on the 28th of April, 2013. The venue and directions will be sent in a private message to all those who confirm. Feel free to bring friends, but keep in mind, this space is meant only for lesbian, bisexual women and trans people assigned female at birth. See you all there!

The Qashti Team

Qashti ki Matargashti – Movie Evening!

9 Apr

Lights, camera, popcorn! Share the magic of the silver screen with old friends and new at Qashti’s movie night and matargashti this Saturday, April 13, from 4 pm to 7 pm. Here is the line-up!

still from Who Can Speak of Men, dir: Ambarien Alqadar

still from Who Can Speak of Men, dir: Ambarien Alqadar

Who Can Speak of Men?
Directors: Ambarien Alquadar, Ghazala Yasmin, Nihal Ahmed
Languages: Hindi, Urdu
Length: 32 minutes
Year: 2001
A documentary about middle-class Muslim women in India who refuse to conform to gender norms. They describe in poignant detail the everyday struggles they face in order to be true to themselves. The film is striking in the inclusion of a disarming seven-year-old, Chini,who stubbornly insists that ‘she’ is a ‘he’.

poster for Puccinni for Beginners, 2006

poster for Puccinni for Beginners, 2006

Puccinni for Beginners
Director: Maria Maggenti
Language: English
Length: 82 mins
Year: 2007
Allegra, an opera-loving writer in New York, hates commitment, so her girlfriend, Samantha, leaves her. Allegra misses Sam, and resents the accusation that she’s afraid to say “I love you,” but she’s soon involved with two people – Grace and Philip. What she doesn’t know is that they have just broken up with each other! Allegra juggles the two affairs, telling neither about the other; each likes her more and more as her old fears start making her itchy. Things come to a head at an engagement party where Allegra is filling in as a catering assistant.

Followed by discussion, chai, snacks, making friends.

The venue and directions will be sent in a private message to all those who confirm on our Facebook page. Feel free to bring friends, but keep in mind this space is meant only for lesbian, bisexual women and trans people assigned female at birth.

See you all there!

let’s have a poll!

2 Apr

What would YOU like to see in Qashti ki Matargashtis?

Fill out our poll below, give your ideas in comments, and share with your friends!

Come listen to coming out stories at Qashti ki Matargashti!

25 Mar


Looks like 31st March will be a day out for LBT people. Start out with kabbadi matches organised by Sangini and then come over to Matargashti to unwind over food, drinks and fun. 

This week’s theme will be Coming Out, where we will be sharing coming out stories, experiences, dilemmas and doubts. Venue details will be sent in a private message to all those who confirm. Feel free to bring friends, but keep in mind, this space is meant only for lesbian, bisexual women and trans people assigned female at birth.

Date: Sunday, 31 March

Time: 3 pm – 5 pm

Venue:  Confirm your attendence on the facebook event and and we will message you the venue details! http://www.facebook.com/events/349867855114522/

See you all there!

Excitedly, The Qashti Team