Tag Archives: Genderqueer
28 Apr

rainbow_rings___trans_by_feare909-d6tdkly.pngHello everyone!

Qashti had announced last month that soon a safe space exclusively for trans*, genderqueer and butch people would be started. Get ready folks, because it’s finally here.

Say hello and break the ice! Let’s get to know one another and discuss what we want from a space like this. We will also briefly discuss the recent Supreme Court judgement on transgender rights and what it means for us. Come join us for chai, snacks and conversation and bring your ideas along. Let’s get this started!

Venue details will be sent privately to those who confirm. You can write to us at qashtilbt@gmail.com. Feel free to bring friends, but keep in mind that the trans* meetup aims to be a safe space for trans*, genderqueer and butch folks assigned female at birth. Hope to see all of you there!

Location: New Delhi
Date: Sunday, 4th May 2014.
Time: 4-7 PM


प्यारे दोस्तों,कश्ती ने पिछले महीने अनाउन्स किया था कि जल्द ही सिर्फ ट्रांस*, जेंडरक्वीर और बुच लोगों के लिए एक सेफ स्पेस शुरू की जाएगी। यह सेफ स्पेस अब अपनी पहली मीटिंग के साथ हाज़िर है।

तो आइये हम सब मिलकर एक दूसरे को जानें और यह तय करें कि आखिर हमें इस सेफ स्पेस से क्या चाहिये। हम हाल ही में आए सुप्रीम कोर्ट के ट्रांसजेडंर राइट्स जजमेंट और हमारे लिए इसके महत्व पर भी थोड़ा विचार विमर्श करेंंगे। आइये और जुड़ जाइये हमारे साथ चाय, नमकीन, गपशप और अपने विचारों के साथ।
यदि आप इसमें हिस्सा लेना चाहते हैं तो हमें बतायें, मीटिंग का पता आपको प्राइवेटली भेजा जाएगा। इसमें हिस्सा लेने के लिए आप हमें qashtilbt@gmail.com पर भी ईमेल कर सकते हैं। आप अपने साथ अपने दोस्तों को भी ज़रूर लाइये लेकिन ध्यान रखिये कि यह जन्म पर फीमेल निर्धारित ट्रांस*, जेंडरक्वीर और बुच व्यक्तियों के लिए एक सेफ स्पेस है।

जगह – नयी दिल्ली

दिन – रविवार, ४ मई २०१४

समय – शाम ४ – ७


ट्रांस मीटिंग | Trans* meeting

26 Mar
क़श्ती में हमने सोचा है कि एक ट्रांस मीटिंग का होना भी जरूरी है । ये इसिस्लिये क्युकी ट्रांस लोगो के जो मुद्दे हे वो अलग है और उनके लिए भी एक सेफ स्पेस कि जरुरत हे। इसी सन्दर्भ में हमने कुछ ट्रांस लोगों से बात कि थी और उनके सामने ये प्रस्ताव रखा था कि क्या वो इस मीटिंग में आ सक्ते है और साथ में अन्य ट्रांस लोगो से मिलके उन्हे भी इस मीटिंग के बारे में बताए। मीटिंग में ftm, genderqueer, butch सब पहचानो के लिए होनी चाहिए, जो भी female  assigned at birth trans masculine खुद को मानते हे।

अप्रैल से शुरू कर के, हर दूसरे महीने एक ट्रांस  मीटिंग होगी। पेहेली मीटिंग में हमें कुछ एजेंडा भी बनाना होगा और सोचना होगा कि ज्यादा से ज्यादा ट्रांस लोग, खासकर वर्किंग क्लास लोग, को कैसे शामिल करें ।  सोचा है कि यह मीटिंग अप्रैल में 13 तारिख़, जो कि एक सन्डे हे को रखें । आप में से कोन इसके प्लानिंग का हिस्सा होना चाहते हे प्लीज हमें email डालें (qashtilbt@gmail.com) या हेल्पलाइन के नंबर पर फ़ोन करें ताकि हम अलग से प्लानिंग कर सके।

Many of us at Qashti have felt the need for a trans* meeting, since many of the issues facing transmasculine people are different from those facing cis-gendered queer women. After discussing with several trans* people we have realised that it is necessary to have a safe space for transmasculine people to meet. This meeting is open for FTM, genderqueer, butch, and all other people who consider themselves transmasculine and were assigned female at birth.
Starting in April, and then once every two months, we will host such a trans* meeting. At the first meeting we will draw up an agenda and think about ways to include more transmasculine people, particularly those from the working class. We are thinking of having the first meeting on 13th April, which is a Sunday. If you would like to be part of planning this meeting, please email us at qashtilbt@gmail.com or call us on the helpline number (see sidebar).

Qashti Ki Matargashti- Play and Say

11 Sep

Join us this Saturday for card games, board games, word games AND intense and exciting conversations: we hope to have a range of activities for all to get a chance to hang out, meet old friends and new people and have a bunch of great discussions!

qashti Please feel free to bring snacks and refreshments (non-alcoholic). You’re welcome to bring friends but please keep in mind that this space is only for lesbian, bisexual and trans* persons assigned FEMALE at birth.

Join us on facebook to know the details or call us at 9711282307 for any clarification/direction.

Two takes on trans/tomboy masculinity and two on femmeness!

25 Apr
We at Qashti want to talk more and more openly about our genders — all of our genders. What does it mean to be butch, to feel like a boi, to occupy any spot in trans*, to find yourself in genderqueer, to be comfortable as andro, to proudly claim femme? And what are these things anyway?  What do they look like? Do they sit as separate categories, never touching, never overlapping? Or do we swim between them, sliding up and down along the gender scale as we move between our homes and workplaces and colleges and cinema halls and bazaars? Do we want to move between the categories or are we forced to move to keep in with the world around us? And in our own community spaces … who can claim which of these genders, who can recognise them, who can speak of them, who is judged for them, who is able to judge, how does it all work?
There are so many questions, and double that many answers … and we at Qashti are very sure that none of them are ever uncomplicatedly right or entirely wrong. So, here is a start:
Four links, four people talking about their genders and where their own communities — queer or otherwise — rub up against them. None of these links are from India but we hope they will help all of us in our own conversations … so read, let us know what you think — and stay tuned for much more from us!

“I have gone from being a big, strong looking Black woman to being a young, lanky Black man. I have always carried with me both masculine and feminine energies, but I have often been forced to choose one over the other depending upon the space around me. The gender binary affects us all in detrimental ways. And while masculinity may seem to offer more room, it also has its limitations. We must make room for all genders to grow and move freely.”

Reclaiming Femme: Queer Women of Colour and Femme Identity
by Vanessa Shanti Fernando

“Although femmes define themselves as active agents, they are nevertheless rendered invisible, as the queer and straight community often perceive them to be heterosexual. The femme’s learned talents of receptivity, vulnerability, openness and communication require strength and active participation.However, members of the queer community do not always recognize or appreciate these talents. In the 1950s lesbian bar culture, certain butches simultaneously valued and mocked femmes for being flighty—a display of their internalized misogyny.Often, other queers only recognize femmes as lesbians when they are accompanied by a butch partner.”

The Femme Shark Manifesto
by Leah-Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha



Losing Access to Sisterhood: Tomboys, Masculinity, and the Unmaking of a Girl
by Spectra Speaks

“The second my gender presentation transitioned from straight girl femininity to queer masculine “inbetweener,” I lost most of my sisters. I’m a different kind of woman now. And all of a sudden women I used to call my sisters don’t know how to interact with me. I’m still a woman, but the reactions to my expression of womanhood have changed, drastically.

This is the kind of experience that informs my work as a media activist. I’m always thinking about which perspectives are missing from political conversations and representations in pop culture: who is being excluded? why? how can our political movements become more self-reflective so that we can identify who among us is being left behind, and become stronger advocates for the kind of progress that includes them. Incidentally, in the fight for women’s equality, the people most frequently excluded from consideration and celebration, often enough look just like me.”


The Qashti Team

Qashti in the News!

18 Mar

The fine folks at Time Out Delhi are the first to cover Qashti in the news! Stay tuned for more articles!

TimeOut article

Fresh off the boat

A volunteer at Qashti reveals more about this new organisation for people assigned female at birth.

“In the morning, when I pass the chhola-kulcha guy, he calls me ‘didi’; in the evening when I come back, he says ‘chhole khane hai, bhaiya?’” This was overheard at one of the “matargashti” meetups run by Qashti, Delhi’s newest LBT (lesbian, bisexual, trans) group.

Qashti describes itself as a “feminist collective for and by lesbian, bisexual, FTM trans and genderqueer people who have been assigned female at birth (LBQTGFAB).” The acronyms and political jargon aside, it’s quite simple: people are usually assigned a gender at birth, (“it’s a girl!”) but that doesn’t always match up to the gender that they actually feel they are. At Qashti, anyone who was assumed to be female at birth is welcome, no matter what gender – male, trans, female, butch, genderqueer, femme, androgynous, other, none – they are now. Not coincidentally, there are easier ways of talking about the gender options for people who were assigned male at birth: they might be hijras, kothis, queens, drag queens, as well as being transgender or genderqueer – and there are quite a few groups and spaces that recognise these. It’s much harder to find spaces that are aware of and openly welcoming of the gender options starting on the female end of the spectrum, so Qashti is hoping to remedy that a bit.

In spite of the seriousness with which they take the gender politics, Qashti’s matargashtis are informal, easygoing affairs, something like a support group crossed with a board game house party. Discussion veers easily from which pronouns people want to use for themselves to a recipe for cake, mishti doi, dhokla; to someone’s memory of being caught kissing a girl in the school loo (“we both said ‘sorry ma’am’, I don’t know why!”) to the rules of Uno, all accompanied with chai and chatter. There is no set meeting space; the events so far have been at private houses, public parks, and borrowed organisational spaces. There is no charge for anything, but people are encouraged to bring snacks or, since the collective is non-funded, give donations.

The matargashti meetups are fun and badly needed, but people often also have serious troubles that they don’t want to talk about openly in front of a group. So over the course of the year, Qashti also plans to start a helpline for LBQTGFAB people and  their issues. It will run for two days a week, and will be staffed by volunteers trained in feminist principles and counselling techniques. As well as providing counselling, they will act as a resource centre, giving references to services that people might need, like queer-friendly doctors, lawyers, psychologists, other support groups, meeting spaces and so on.

The helpline will start in June 2013, and will involve outreach to as many different types of people and organisations as possible, across classes. In addition to LBT organizations, Qashti plans to reach out to women’s groups, NGOs working in bastis, and to a wider audience via print media, pamphlets and stickers in public places with contact information. There is such a need for support and resources for LBQTGFAB that it is very hard to rein in the wish to do everything, and just try to do a few things well. Ideally, there would be many more such spaces, helplines, shelters and resource guides!


Qashti ki Matargashti is next on Sunday, March 31st. The date has been changed from the 24th because too many people are out of town for the holidays around Holi and Good Friday.