Tag Archives: gender

Film Screening this Sunday (September 21st 2014)

16 Sep

Join us for another film screening this Sunday (22nd September) at 4 pm.

Venue will be sent to those who confirm on Facebook ‘Qashti Lbt’ or email us at qashtilbt@gmail.com.

We will have some food and non-alcoholic drinks, but feel free to bring more for yourself or to share!


This Saturday! Breaking the Binary with LABIA

2 May

A few years ago, several of us in Qashti heard about a study being done by LABIA, based on interviews and conversations sharing life histories with LBTGQFAB people from all over India. We’ve been eager and excited to hear about the results of these conversations for ages, and now we finally get to! LABIA will be coming to Delhi this Saturday to share their findings, carry on the discussions and answer all our questions about the study! And the icing on the cake is that we at Qashti are co-hosting the event along with Saheli — we couldn’t be more delighted! So please come, bring friends and families, enjoy some refreshing cool drinks and hear all about Breaking the Binary! Over to LABIA:


BREAKING THE BINARY: Understanding concerns and realities of queer persons assigned gender female at birth across a spectrum of lived gender identities

Saturday 4th May 2013
3:00 to 7:00 pm
at The Attic, 1st Floor, 36 Regal Building, Outer Circle, Connaught Place
(directions: in the same lane as People Tree, Kwality Restaurant etc. Nearest Metro: Rajiv Chowk)

In 2009-2010, LABIA initiated a research study based on 50 life history narratives of queer PAGFB (persons assigned gender female at birth), and aided by discussions with queer LBT and trans* groups. 11 of us (many of us members of LABIA) did the interviews, transcripts and initial analysis, and 4 of us have been doing the further analysis and writing.

Key findings have been presented at different conferences and some of the data has been published. Now we bring you the full report. Through this study, we explore the circumstances and situations of queer PAGFB who are made to, or expected to, fit into society’s norms around gender and sexuality. We look at their experiences with natal families and in school; we chart their journey through intimate relationships and jobs; we attempt to understand what happens to them in public spaces, and how they are treated by various state agencies; we discover where they seek and find support, community, and a refuge from the violence and discrimination that mark far too many lives.

Most significantly, this research has given us new insights into gender itself, which we feel are crucial additions to the current discourse in both queer and feminist spaces. Finally, the study flags areas of particular concern, and highlights some necessary interventions.

We ourselves are amazed at the richness and complexity of our findings and are impelled by the need to share these as widely as possible with all queer and feminist groups and individuals, activists and academics, all people working specifically with LBT persons as well as broadly in the areas of gender and sexuality — and of course all of us who are interested in knowing more about our selves.

So do join us for an intense, engaging, stimulating afternoon of presentations in English and Hindi, with time for questions and discussion (and most certainly for tea and snacks).

Chayanika, Raj, Shalini, Smriti from LABIA – a queer feminist LBT collective

(With Saheli and Qashti LBT)

फिल्म चर्चा

29 Apr

पिछले  बार के मटरगश्ती शुरू हुयी इस इंतज़ार में की लाइट कब आये और हम फिल्म देख पाये. और वही हुआ . लाइट आई और हम सब अपनी पहली फिल्म देखने के लिए बैठ गये. पॉपकॉर्न से भरे  बर्तन यहाँ से वहा जा रहे थे . पर सब की नजरे परदे पर थी.

Chini Walks हमारी पहली फिल्म थी हु केन स्पीक ऑफ़ मैन, जो एक डाक्यूमेंट्री फिल्म है  यह फिल्म अम्बरीन अल्क़दर की है I फिल्म के तीन किरदार दिल्ली के जामिया नगर से थे I  तीनो ने ही अपने जिंदगी में कई सारे जेंडर से जुड़े नियम तोड़े थे और यह फिल्म उनके रोजमर्रा के इन्ही पहलू पर थी. तीनो के जिंदगी के कई सारे ऐसे पल थे जहाँ  उनको काफी संघर्ष करना पड़ता था, जैसे स्कूल के यूनिफार्म में क्या पहेनना है, दोस्त कौन होंगे और सबसे महत्वपूर्ण संघर्ष था, उनके पेह्चान. फिल्म के दो किरदार ने तो साफ़ कह दिया था की वे खुद को लड़के  की तरह देखते थे. 

इसके  बाद दूसरी फिल्म थी पुच्च्नी फॉर बिगिनर्स” नामक एक अंग्रेजी फिल्म थी और एक लड़की के जिंदगी के बारे में थी  
फिल्म ख़तम होने के बाद कुछ  समय की चर्चा हुई. ख़ास कर पहली फिल्म के बारे मे एक दोस्त का कहना था की उन्हें  अपने स्कूल की  यूनिफार्म पहेने में  दिक्कत आई. एक दोस्त ने कहा की शिक्षा और जेंडर से जुड़े नियमो से इन  लोगो के जिंदगी के साथ जुडाव को देखना बहुत जरुरी है क्योंकि एक इंसान स्कूल में काफी समय बिताता  है, और स्कूल में जब भेद  भाव होता है,तो कई सारे ट्रांसजेंडर बच्चे स्कूल छोड़ देते है. किसी ने कहा की उनके लिए शिक्षा जरुरी थी  इसलिए वो स्कूल नहीं छोड़ना चाहते थे. परन्तु किसी का कहना था की किसी किसी के लिए जेंडर पहचान बहुत जरुरी होती  है. और इसलिए स्कूल में अगर स्कर्ट पहन कर जाना पड़ता था, और उसपर सभी लोग ये कह के छेडते थे की लड़का हैं या लड़की.
हम  जेंडर, जेंडर ट्रांसग्रेस्सन और शिक्षा से जुड़े मुद्दों पर और चर्चा करना चाहते हैं, आपको क्या लगता हैं?

Two takes on trans/tomboy masculinity and two on femmeness!

25 Apr
We at Qashti want to talk more and more openly about our genders — all of our genders. What does it mean to be butch, to feel like a boi, to occupy any spot in trans*, to find yourself in genderqueer, to be comfortable as andro, to proudly claim femme? And what are these things anyway?  What do they look like? Do they sit as separate categories, never touching, never overlapping? Or do we swim between them, sliding up and down along the gender scale as we move between our homes and workplaces and colleges and cinema halls and bazaars? Do we want to move between the categories or are we forced to move to keep in with the world around us? And in our own community spaces … who can claim which of these genders, who can recognise them, who can speak of them, who is judged for them, who is able to judge, how does it all work?
There are so many questions, and double that many answers … and we at Qashti are very sure that none of them are ever uncomplicatedly right or entirely wrong. So, here is a start:
Four links, four people talking about their genders and where their own communities — queer or otherwise — rub up against them. None of these links are from India but we hope they will help all of us in our own conversations … so read, let us know what you think — and stay tuned for much more from us!

“I have gone from being a big, strong looking Black woman to being a young, lanky Black man. I have always carried with me both masculine and feminine energies, but I have often been forced to choose one over the other depending upon the space around me. The gender binary affects us all in detrimental ways. And while masculinity may seem to offer more room, it also has its limitations. We must make room for all genders to grow and move freely.”

Reclaiming Femme: Queer Women of Colour and Femme Identity
by Vanessa Shanti Fernando

“Although femmes define themselves as active agents, they are nevertheless rendered invisible, as the queer and straight community often perceive them to be heterosexual. The femme’s learned talents of receptivity, vulnerability, openness and communication require strength and active participation.However, members of the queer community do not always recognize or appreciate these talents. In the 1950s lesbian bar culture, certain butches simultaneously valued and mocked femmes for being flighty—a display of their internalized misogyny.Often, other queers only recognize femmes as lesbians when they are accompanied by a butch partner.”

The Femme Shark Manifesto
by Leah-Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha



Losing Access to Sisterhood: Tomboys, Masculinity, and the Unmaking of a Girl
by Spectra Speaks

“The second my gender presentation transitioned from straight girl femininity to queer masculine “inbetweener,” I lost most of my sisters. I’m a different kind of woman now. And all of a sudden women I used to call my sisters don’t know how to interact with me. I’m still a woman, but the reactions to my expression of womanhood have changed, drastically.

This is the kind of experience that informs my work as a media activist. I’m always thinking about which perspectives are missing from political conversations and representations in pop culture: who is being excluded? why? how can our political movements become more self-reflective so that we can identify who among us is being left behind, and become stronger advocates for the kind of progress that includes them. Incidentally, in the fight for women’s equality, the people most frequently excluded from consideration and celebration, often enough look just like me.”


The Qashti Team

Matargashti – let’s talk!

23 Apr
qashti trainWith the growing incidents of Gender based Violence in the city and in the country, we’ve been thinking a lot about what it means to walk down the street, use public transportation, be it metros, autos, shared tempos, cycle rickshaws, or buses as an LBT person.

  • Do you find that people stare at you?
  • Do you get physcially/verbally harassed?
  • Do you feel like you need to change the way you dress when you go out to avoid getting attention?
  • Are you comfortable travelling alone?
  • Is it difficult for you to use the metro because you dont know which queue to use (male or female)?
  • Do you feel safe travelling at night?
  • Are you relieved that you dont get male sexual attention because of the way you look?
  • Can you be affectionate towards your partner in public?

We all have experiences to share when it comes to moving about in the public sphere…our experiences are all unique because of our class, caste, gender presentation and sexual orientation.

So this Matargashti we will talk about how we feel in public places as LBT persons. Do come and share your anecdotes, ideas, stories and reflections with everyone on the 28th of April, 2013. The venue and directions will be sent in a private message to all those who confirm. Feel free to bring friends, but keep in mind, this space is meant only for lesbian, bisexual women and trans people assigned female at birth. See you all there!

The Qashti Team

Everything you wanted to know about gender, sex, sexuality — comically explained!

22 Apr

What is queer? What is trans? genderqueer? agender? what about pansexual? why do some people want to be called ‘ze’, not he or she?

Here’s a cute, clever answer to all these questions, and more! Click on the link below!

Comically explained 🙂



Sweet and accurate

7 Mar

Sweet and accurate